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body positive zone: Gay Men and Body Image

Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:11:44 -0500

body positive zone: Gay Men and Body Image:

Think of the first ten gay men you’ve seen portrayed by the media. How many are thin? How many are fat? If you can think of more than two fat gay men who were more than side characters, you’re already doing better than I am.

This is a problem. It’s setting gay youth up…

It is not us trying to 'justify' our weight, it is you trying to justify your hate

Wed, 30 Jan 2013 09:23:55 -0500

bumsquash:

And failing.

emilykatee: bobdebird: Oh yeah, this. I mean it’s kind of...

Tue, 29 Jan 2013 20:28:43 -0500

emilykatee:

bobdebird:

Oh yeah, this.

I mean it’s kind of funny

stfuconservatives: If the misogynist in your life is trying to...

Tue, 29 Jan 2013 20:28:15 -0500

stfuconservatives:

If the misogynist in your life is trying to claim women can’t serve in combat because they can’t carry a dude, kindly point them in the direction of this article about how people in the military learn the fireman’s carry.

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Tue, 29 Jan 2013 17:39:14 -0500

balkan-thug: egyptiansoapbox: Cultures that endorse modesty and cultures that endorse...

Tue, 29 Jan 2013 17:37:00 -0500

balkan-thug:

egyptiansoapbox:

Cultures that endorse modesty and cultures that endorse hypersexualization are the *same* thing. Both define female sexuality by how it relates to the male gaze. In both cases the female body exists as an ornament either to be kept carefully hidden or put on display. Neither is an empowering feminist achievement.

Thank you.

I couldn’t have said it better myself.

This accurately describes my tolerance to ALL the bullshit....

Tue, 29 Jan 2013 17:34:00 -0500

This accurately describes my tolerance to ALL the bullshit. edited by the lovely @stinkyhairyhippie.

iwillnotshavemyvagina: You know the analogy for sex that "a key that opens a lot of locks is a good key, but a lock that opens by many keys is a shitty lock," right?

Fri, 24 Feb 2012 22:35:00 -0500

iwillnotshavemyvagina: You know the analogy for sex that "a key that opens a lot of locks is a good key, but a lock that opens by many keys is a shitty lock," right?
me: yeah, I hate it.
iwillnotshavemyvagina: Well, I came up with a better one: "A bowl that holds many Cheetos is a good bowl; however, a Cheeto that's seen many bowls is a nasty Cheeto."

EDIT: iwilnotshavemyvaginamerelysaid this to me in a reiteration of hat she saw someone else say on tumblr. I never heard it before and thought it was cool, so credit is due where it's due--I just like the concept. :D

christiantheatheist: This is good.

Fri, 24 Feb 2012 22:32:33 -0500

christiantheatheist:

This is good.

iwillnotshavemyvagina: Here’s my little diddy: Topless...

Mon, 30 Jan 2012 15:58:29 -0500

iwillnotshavemyvagina:

Here’s my little diddy: Topless Inequality Blues

Recorded on my shit guitar missing an e using garage band on my essentially broken mac. The quality is not good. It cuts off suddenly at the end. Let’s not make me feel bad about what I already know is crappy!

I hope you enjoy!

In the summer’s hot, hot heat

On the beach or strolling down the street

I see some people with no top

But where I live it’s not a lot

‘Cause over 50% of the population

Faces arrest or citation

If your ID states you are M

Then your nipples are okay my friend

But as an F I must make a plea

To allow my nipple without the attached baby

It’s legal if it’s used for food

But not the pool ‘cause I’m no dude

I’m not suggesting anything outrageous

In fact the idea seems quite contagious

We’ve all had nipples, all had breasts

Let us put this taboo to rest

It’s not a big deal

And we need this to heal

Societally

Some blame the men and their attraction

as the root of shocked reaction

But I don’t think that’s quite fair

Some like legs, others like hair

The law is based on sexist notions

Reaction from straight men’s emotions

These laws affect our perceptions

Of what gender is and what directions

We should take to punish those

Who we think should wear more clothes

Ban all breasts or allow them all

Those are both equal calls

I’m not suggesting anything outrageous

In fact the idea seems quite contagious

We’ve all had nipples, all had breasts

Let us put this taboo to rest

It’s not a big deal

And we need this to heal

Societally

Breasts are not genitals xbazillion

I’m not suggesting anything outrageous

In fact the idea seems quite contagious

We’ve all had nipples, all had breasts

Let us put this taboo to rest

It’s not a big deal

And we need this to heal

Societally

!!!! :DD

sailingfree: Pride and Prejudice, London; 2nd July 2011 by...

Sat, 28 Jan 2012 21:51:10 -0500

sailingfree:

Pride and Prejudice, London; 2nd July 2011 by pixel.eight

cdandor: Words that Hurt poster for the UC Davis Lesbian, Gay,...

Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:51:06 -0500

cdandor:

Words that Hurt poster for the UC Davis Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Resource Center. Displayed for Principles of Community week in the Memorial Union until March 14th, 2011.

stfuconservatives: Ron Paul Knew All About His Beloved Racist...

Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:50:00 -0500

stfuconservatives:

Ron Paul Knew All About His Beloved Racist Newsletters

livealifethatscompletelyfree:

Gawker.com via Washington Post

The Washington Post is out with an excellent update on the history of the racist, homophobic, survivalist, nutcase newspapers that were published under his name in the 80s and 90s, which comes awfully close to confirming the most likely version of the story: He may not have written every word of them, but he sure signed off on them and wanted them written that way to pick up more subscribers and make more money.

The Post quotes Renae Hathaway, a Paul supporter and former secretary at Ron Paul & Associates, the company that published them, saying, “It was his newsletter, and it was under his name, so he always got to see the final product. . . . He would proof it.” Ouch.

And who could confirm that Paul was behind the editorial decision to make his newsletters so offensive? The head of the most prominent libertarian think tank in Washington D.C. should suffice:

Ed Crane, the longtime president of the libertarian Cato Institute, said he met Paul for lunch during this period, and the two men discussed direct-mail solicitations, which Paul was sending out to interest people in his newsletters. They agreed that “people who have extreme views” are more likely than others to respond.

Crane said Paul reported getting his best response when he used a mailing list from the now-defunct newspaper Spotlight, which was widely considered anti-Semitic and racist.

Let’s throw in one more anonymous source for kicks:

A person involved in Paul’s businesses, who spoke on condition of anonymity to avoid criticizing a former employer, said Paul and his associates decided in the late 1980s to try to increase sales by making the newsletters more provocative. They discussed adding controversial material, including racial statements, to help the business, the person said.

It’s a welcome reminder that the libertarian movement that’s now headquartered in lush glass, brick, and steel think tanks and research centers, populated by savvy young intellectuals, made its money in the early years by pandering to deep-pocketed extremist lunatics. This history doesn’t set it apart from that of many other proud American institutions, but after years of hearing petulant neener-neeners from all libertarians about how they’re the only group in American politics that lives and dies by profound moral principles and nothing else, let’s send a hearty neener-neener back their way.

But if you’re already dedicated to Ron Paul’s campaign, who cares? The goal here is to use the first viable libertarian candidacy in a major political party in some time to pick up enough delegates in nominating contests to matter, mathematically, and then leverage that into a major convention speech, insertion into the party platform, or role in playing kingmaker to the eventual nominee. The specific nominee’s editorial history from decades back — which wasn’t that different from the mainstream Republican party’s at the time — needn’t derail that. It’s just an icky compromise every supporter will have to make. (Neener neener.)

But he’s not racist right?

fuckyeahsexeducation: stfuconservatives: golden-notebook: Dear...

Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:49:30 -0500

fuckyeahsexeducation:

stfuconservatives:

golden-notebook:

Dear Life & Style:

Fuck you in every way possible.

Shiloh can act however she wants. Short hair is cute on girls. And dinosaurs are awesome.

I highly doubt Brad Pitt is wringing his hands over his daughter acting awesome.

Wow that is some hardcore gender binary reinforcing. There are going to be a lot of pearls clutched at the supermarket checkout line.

“Dolls to dinosaurs!? HEAVENS!”

-Joe

My two year old brother asked me to paint his fingernails sparkly yellow today and I did. WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THAT LIFESTYLE?!

As a little girl, I wanted to take my shirt off constantly and had short hair and played with fucking matchbox cars! My mother BOUGHT them for me! I was disappointed when my father could go out topless and I couldn’t. Fuck you, magazine.

fuckyeahsexeducation: becauseiamawoman: sexpositive: How to...

Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:46:43 -0500

fuckyeahsexeducation:

becauseiamawoman:

sexpositive:

How to insert and remove the Female Condom

Not enough people try these!

*internal condom

YES! I love these things and always have a difficult time explaining how to insert them. This is so helpful!

bebinn: Thinking About Leaving an Abusive Relationship [TW: dating violence, violence against...

Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:34:23 -0500

bebinn:

Thinking About Leaving an Abusive Relationship [TW: dating violence, violence against women]

slutrockerbitch:

The list below was compiled with help from regular visitors to the “Survivor’s Post” forum of our message board. Thanks to AJ, Kiara, Lynn, Nancie, Sunny and Vella for the well thought-out posts that contributed.

Getting Prepared Emotionally

Visualize yourself having left, going through everything, where would you stay, how would you feel, what would you do next, etc. If you start thinking through the process and about your reactions, it will be easier to deal with the reality of leaving.

Decide if and when you’ve had enough. You have to be sure that what you’re doing is the right thing for you and your children at the time. It’s a big change.

Keeping a diary or journal (hidden privately) can help. Many victims write journal notes or diaries as a way to sort out their feelings and the situation. It helps to have these notes to read through and reflect. If you keep a diary, be sure it is in a well-hidden place and cannot be found.

Realize staying is not a long term solution to protect yourself, your safety or your children’s safety. The classic pattern of abuse escalates over time. Think about what you want in your life and how you want your children to grow up. Ask yourself if the relationship or family situation is getting better or is it progressively getting worse.

Realize that there will still be problems to overcome if you leave and an abusive partner may still try to control you through emotional, financial or other means. Those who leave abusive relationships still face challenges; their lives improve greatly by leaving but they know there are challenges ahead and make a decision to face them. Many choose counseling or support groups to help themselves meet this challenge.

Safety Planning

The key to safety planning is taking a problem, considering the full range of available options, evaluating the risks and benefits of different options, and identifying ways to reduce the risks. Here are some tips:

Gather together any documents you may need. Store them in a safe place such a bank safe deposit box, with a trusted relative or friend. Ensuring the documents are available if you must leave in a hurry due to danger, or are actually planning to leave, is important. Documents will help you in getting assistance, filing other paperwork and protecting your interests. These documents include:

Social security cards/numbers for yourself and any children

Birth certificates for yourself and any children

Medical records and immunization records for the children

Marriage certificate

Insurance cards or policy numbers

Bank account numbers (checking, saving, credit cards too) and a copy of any recent statements showing balances

List of everything of any value at all in the house that may later be needed for divorce court or distribution of property

Keys - house, car, office, post office box, safety deposit box

Drivers license, car registration and title

Medications and prescriptions

Passport, green card, work permit and any other immigration documents

Children’s favorite toys, security blankets

Start putting back a little money here and there, just enough that isn’t going to be missed. Be prepared as much as you can be financially.

Mortgage payment book, copies of current unpaid bills

Pictures, jewelry, items of sentimental value

Pictures of injuries you may have gotten from your partner’s abuse

Any evidence that might help police in investigating your case, for example, threatening letters or phone message tapes

Is there anyone you can ask to call the police if they hear suspicious noises coming from your house or apartment?

If you need to get out of your house or apartment in a hurry, what door, window, elevator or stairwell will you be able to use in order to get out safely?

Where can you keep your purse, car keys and some change to make a phone call so that you can grab them quickly?

Is there a code word you can use with friends, family and/or your children to alert them to call for help? Do your children know how to use the phone to contact police?

If an argument occurs, how can you get to a room where there are fewer things that can be used as weapons? Avoid getting trapped in the kitchen, bathroom, basement or garage.

Seeking Help

Counseling or a Support Group - When you leave an abusive relationship, you need support to help sort through the emotions, feelings of lost hopes, and rebuild your self esteem and personal strength. Counseling and support groups help many victims tremendously through this difficult time.

Let police help you - What the police can do for you depends in part on what you tell them or give them. Be as open as you can, help the police by telling them all you can. Any statement you give to the police is very important. Read your statement carefully and if there is anything that is incorrect, ask the officers to change the written statement so that it matches what actually happened. Sign it only when it says what you want it to say.

Get a Protective order or Restraining order - if you are afraid of your partner or that you will be pursued, or if violence has been shown previously; get a protective order. Many people think protective orders don’t work, but it is actually your first line of legal defense. Follow up, if the order is violated in any way, file charges.

Seek help and support from local domestic violence organizations and shelters - Programs offer safe shelter for victims and their children, resources and contacts to legal help, court advocates to assist you in court, and counseling or support group services. Look in your local phone book for these groups, call your local social services, or state or regional domestic violence coalitions for help and advice.

Legal help - Investigate your legal rights and position. You should feel comfortable when you talk to your lawyer and be sure that she/he understands your situation and knows how to help. If you do not have confidence in the first lawyer you speak with, you should seek another one. Your local social services or domestic violence organizations can usually refer you to a lawyer. Seeking legal help is particularly important to protect your safety, child custody and financial issues. Know your rights.

Family and Friends - The first place an abusive partner will look for you when you leave is with family or friends. Choose very carefully about where you will stay. If you fear the partner will become violent, then chose a shelter to protect everyone’s safety. Ask your family and friends for emotional support. Survivors of domestic violence and abuse need emotional support. Be careful to ask those closest to you, who you feel the abusive partner could never persuade. A survivor of domestic abuse cannot afford contact with anyone who may side or feel sympathetic with their former partner.

This list was developed by experienced domestic violence survivors - women who have already been through the challenge of leaving an abusive partner and made it.

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Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:33:22 -0500

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Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:33:11 -0500

fuck yeah sex education: Weekly Links Roundup 1/26/12 - Safe Sex, Condoms, Sex Education

Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:31:00 -0500

fuck yeah sex education: Weekly Links Roundup 1/26/12 - Safe Sex, Condoms, Sex Education:

Super helpful/informative.

aceadmiral: kuremu: bollocks-raptor: Hey, look! It’s a Shit...

Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:27:42 -0500

aceadmiral:

kuremu:

bollocks-raptor:

Hey, look! It’s a Shit People Say to Asexuals video - and who is that charming young lady in it? Surely it can’t be Axx?

Hehe, I took part in a collab video. It was really fun! Please do check it out, especially if you’re not ace, so you know what not to say.

bristish. aces. /pinches cheeks

hdu be so qt

The guy in the garage kills me dead, oh gosh.